# “Use very hard arguments and very soft words” by Charles Spurgeon

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“In all probability, sensible conversation will sometimes drift into controversy,
and here many a good man runs upon a snag. _The sensible minister will be particularly
gentle in argument._ He, above all men, should not make the mistake of fancying 
that there is force in temper, and power in speaking angrily.

A heathen who stood in a crowd in Calcutta, listening to a missionary disputing 
with a Brahmin, said he knew which was right though he did not understand the language—
he knew that he was in the wrong who lost his temper first. For the most part, that
is a very accurate way of judging.

Try to avoid debating with people. State your opinion and let them state theirs.
If you see that a stick is crooked, and you want people to see how crooked it is,
lay a straight rod down beside it; that will be quite enough.

But if you are drawn into controversy, use very _hard_ arguments and very _soft_
words. Frequently you cannot convince a man by tugging at his reason, but you can
persuade him by winning his affections.

The other day I had the misery to need a pair of new boots, and though I bade the
fellow make them as large as canoes, I had to labour fearfully to get them on. With
a pair of boot-hooks I toiled like the men on board the vessel with Jonah, but all
in vain.

Just then my friend put in my way a little French chalk, and the work was done in
a moment. Wonderfully coaxing was that French chalk.

Gentlemen, always carry a little French chalk with you into society, a neat packet
of Christian persuasiveness, and you will soon discover the virtues of it.”

–Charles H. Spurgeon, [_Lectures to My Students: A Selection from Addresses Delivered to the Students of the Pastors’ College, Metropolitan Tabernacle_](https://www.amazon.com/dp/0851519660?tag=toletaupanre-20)(
Carlisle, PA: Banner of Truth, 1875/2008), 201-202.

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